Friday, May 03, 2013

Novation?

SK or Al Jaber
It seems suspicious, so I'm still thinking why our bujangnim took our team out for lunch yesterday. It is unusual, based on our experience we have observed that Koreans only go to a restaurant for 3 reasons:
            1) Celebration for an important event or meeting.
            2) To make an important announcement to everyone.
            3) Someone is leaving or going away and not coming back.
Items 1) and 2) are not available. So we expected execution. Our hearts and minds are prepared for this already. Everyone is talking about 'novation' in the office for the past month. It is a legal matter and we don't know it. When I goooogled 'novation' it says 'replacement' and immediately my heart sank. I thought its the end of the world. Ok, when faced with a difficult situation it is sometimes wise to step back a little and think first before jumping to conclusion so I will note down some ideas from my mind to calm my anxious heart:

Reasons Why AJB should Novate:
1) ...
2) ...
3) ....
4) ....
5) .....

Ooops! sorry folks, it seems that my brain can not think of a single reason...it is saying "invalid entry.please try again later" hehe!

<02.05.2013_noodle house>

my dear colleagues: Unique Jaya; smart kuya- sir Bong; my handsome boss Jeon; the kindest kuya- sir Ben; sweet Gayani, & beautiful Rona :)

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"Work without love is slavery."
-Mother Theresa
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Thursday, May 02, 2013

End of Duty

One of the best part of the day is this......
<30.04.2013_ever beautiful sunset over the horizon>
We go home after work tired but satisfied from one more day we have accomplished. And while we enjoy the 30 minutes bus-ride from our jobsite to where we lived, this magnificent view of the sunset in the sky often welcomes us. If you look at the sun going down slowly in the horizon, the sun's remaining rays will fill the wide sky with many colors....it calms the mind.

<02.05.2013_bus.going home on Thursday>
From Saturday to Wednesday, it will be a silent bus-ride...everybody will just sit and quietly rest. But Thursday is another story. Everyone will be noisy, and excited for the weekend.
<Hamdan St. AD>
Driver Baskar will drop most of his noisy passengers here in this place - Hamdan steet lies in center of this peaceful city. Sometimes during month-end, we will invite each other whoever is brave to spend a little from our salary. Last week, it was raining and a little cold, naturally we craved for hot soup so we enjoyed another xiabu-xiabu dinner.
<29.04.2013_hotpot as usual, together with food friends>
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“Now ... if you trust in yourself ... 
and believe in your dreams ... 
and follow your star ... 
you'll still get beaten by people who
spent their time working hard and 
learning things and weren't so lazy....” 
― Terry Pratchett,
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Saturday, April 27, 2013

Friday, April 26, 2013

Origins

Girls don't tell their age to public (its our top secret) because, we like to look younger than our age. My mother does not read my blogs so I am freely announcing that she turned 57 years old this April 23, 2013 (Praise God.). She left the Philippines and came here almost 30 years ago, so my grandmother took care of me. Now that I work also here in the UAE, my 'Nanang' (grandmother) is alone back home. She is old and weak already that is why many times we ask a distant relative to stay in our house to look out for her. But we would always have a problem after a week, the relative would leave and does not want to go back. Maybe because my Nanang shouts a lot :) like my mother, she talks like 'she's shouting', same like me. When people hear us talking, they think that we are fighting. Mama will eventually retire and go back home after few months and will take care of Nanang. They will have to endure each other's shouting.

Last night, while lying in bed I looked up and saw the moon lit in a perfect circle. Some clouds were slowly passing in front of it so it looked like a horror movie. While staring at the moon I realized that I am also getting older, after two months I will also turn __ years old. Life is getting shorter. I feel like the moon, my life is not moving....just the clouds are passing by, just like the experiences passing us by. 
Oh life. Teach me to number the days.

Review Your Goals

Do you agree that its more fun to live if you have a list of goals to guide you through your life? If you have it already, its important to review it as often as possible because its easy to neglect and forget it when we get caught up in our routine works.
I will share some of mine...hehe.

1. Improve traditional farming methods in our hometown
<we are proud hardworking farmers>
2. See and enjoy the wonderful places around the world
<victoria falls, zambia>
3. Condense all my thoughts and write a satisfying book
<dream book>
4. Build a humble home on top of the mountains overlooking the sea
<you are all welcome to have vacation here once its built hehe!>
5. Become a talented speaker
<i am afraid to speak in public, tsk. tsk. tsk.>
6.Continue changing, transforming to becoming a person of integrity

etc....etc...etc...

(pictures borrowed from google)

Saturday, April 20, 2013

What makes you Happy?

On my way out the mall this Friday evening, I couldn't resist passing by the bookstore again. So voilà! 2more books added in queue...'just loved to read good books. Oh, it would be heaven if one will be isolated for a week in a quiet nipa hut in the mountains without another human being, together with these books and surrounded by the sight, smell and sound of nature, only.
Ok sometimes it gets expensive and will cost me up to 10 percent of my salary. But it simply makes me happy.  And you, what makes you happy? Here are some suggestions:
Simple things that makes a simple heart happy:
1. Hang out and share stories with your best friends.
2. Play a game with a young child (if there's no child, then to a young at heart).
3. Cook breakfast or lunch or dinner for your family.
4. Give a gift or a 'thank you note' or a simple message to a person you care about.
5. Watch & enjoy the sunset or the sunrise.
6. Remove your shoes and freely step on the grass.
7. Give a big hug to someone you love.
8. Go out, discover and visit a new place.
9. Play your favorite song and sing it out loud, give it your best shot.
10. Wear your rubber shoes and run around the nearest park....really sweat it.
11. Adopt a pet. Like a fish or a hamster.
12. Watch a good movie. Comedy is the best.


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“Do what makes you happy, be with who makes you smile, laugh as much as you breathe, and love as long as you live.”
―by Rachel Ann Nunes
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Thursday, April 18, 2013

Déjà vu

Got a surprise call from an old friend today. Its a birthday invitation so I rushed to the nearest gift shop to buy her a gift. The celebration also turned out to be like a reunion.
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Friend's Birthday Gift??? <stuff toys again>

It feels good to see old friends and familiar faces once again after a long time. Out of all the values we have learned from Hadeed Emirates, our old company, one of the most precious is friendship. We have all moved on to different companies here in the UAE and its cheerful to hear that everyone is doing well and in better position than before. One thing that did not change is the warmth and care we feel for each other.

Lanie, Ana, Ermie, Jrome, Maryann, Ate Christy, Ermie, Donna.....
"Kowloon_18.04.2013 

Sunday, April 14, 2013

45minutes


She said its their new year so we celebrated with special dish prepared by our one and only colleague from the beautiful country of Sri Lanka. Great. We had 45 minutes of fun and stories in front of the strange but delicious snack of "square" shaped rice.
Happy New Year!!!
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Friday, April 12, 2013

Dreams Vs Home Country

All my kabayans are still anxious at work. It is normal because we are expats here in the middle east. We left our homes and families and came abroad hoping to have a better life for ourselves as well as for our loved ones. After some time our contracts will end and then have to go back home or find another employer. Maybe for some, to go back and stay in our own home country is more comfortable. But for others, they already get used to and enjoy the way of life here in the UAE.

It is like we are living two different lives- ofw life and home life. 

Living in the Middle East is good because-
  1. Life is more active and upbeat and busy.
  2. We grow and learn faster- mentally, socially & emotionally.
  3. Here we have more chance to reach our dreams and become financially free.
  4. We get to meet many different people from various countries.
  5. We become independent and strong and able to support our families back home.
  6. Our vision enlarges and we are open to more possibilities to set higher goals.
Living at Home is good because-
  1. There is mental freedom compared to being an employee which feels like a slave.
  2. You enjoy being with your family and happy to meet old friends and relatives.
  3. You can have the luxury to enjoy laziness and be stress free.
  4. Life is so relaxing just watching the sea or the mountains around you.
  5. You can sleep anywhere you like -big space compared to a small rental room in UAE.
  6. Local people, local language, local food, local transport is so familiar.
  7. You can have a bath for one hour or more...no hurry.
  8. Nobody mind what you do, how you spend your time is completely up to you.
  9. Wake up to the sound of the many kinds of birds singing and dogs barking.
In both cases, it is good. So whatever happens, we can choose to remain happy or to unnecessarily worry.

Friday, April 05, 2013

Shout Back or Smile?


How to deal with - 
shouting (slash) swearing (slash) immature (slash) emotional (slash) angry people:
Heart's advice:
1. Listen patiently and understand their point of view and then acknowledge it.
2. Maybe they are under stress so empathize with them.
3. Try to get in their shoes in order to see their feelings.

Mind's advice:
1. Do not take it seriously, people sometimes become 'angry cows' and lose their self control.
2. No one has the right to shout at anyone so ignore whatever they say.
3. Just leave and keep away if they persist.

Psyche-life advise ^^,
1. If someone swear at you and say:  'Sh-t!'.... yell back at him asap: "Sh-t to you also!"
2. If someone shout and provoke you....take a video at him and say: "I will report this to police!"
3. If someone continue yelling at you....gather all your strength and punch at his nose!

<disclaimer> **This is just my blog post. Incidents are just products my imagination. Any resemblance to actual events or persons, living or dead, is entirely coincidental ;))

Wednesday, April 03, 2013

Climb

Got inspired by this post today...
So true and meaningful.

The higher we reach, the wider becomes our perspective, the deeper will be our understanding, and yet in a way also the more humble our hearts will become. It is fulfilling. So we got to continue, lets keep climbing. Eventually we will reach the top. And then there are still so many more mountains to discover!

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Success doesn’t come to you, you go to it.
-by Marva Collins
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Monday, March 25, 2013

Is this goodbye?

Today, the afternoon rain managed to make everyone smile in the office. What is it about rain anyway that makes us feel vulnerable? Now, I feel it is a good time to write a love letter. <<just for fun!>>

Dearest S.P.,

When I heard the news at first I did not believe it. I just laughed because I had great faith in you. We've been together for almost 2years now, we faced all kinds of challenges, we went through many difficulties. Yes, there were hard times but yet, we also had a few happier times.... so far I thought we were getting stronger.

That is why I was surprised and deeply hurt when you started introducing her to everyone as your new partner.

I find this very painful but if you believe that parting now is the best thing for us, then it is time for us to focus on our future. We still have happy memories from the time we spent together. I will concentrate on making the remaining days spent with you as happy as possible. 

You have a lot of great qualities. I have learned so many good things from you. You taught me first to be sensitive and caring, to be polite and respectful, and then to be committed. You patiently showed me how to be self disciplined. You are the reason I have changed from my selfish old self and the reason why I am striving to become more and more better, because you have inspired me.

I loved you from the beginning.  If this is goodbye, then let me thank you, from the bottom of my heart for all the good that you did for me. ....

Yours,
psyche-life
'keepsake'

Sunday, March 17, 2013

This is my story....

Enjoy LIFE!!!

2012-2013

2010-2011

2008-2009

Thanks to all the souls that touch mine....

This is my Story

Enjoy Life!
2012-2013
2010-2011
2008-2009


Sunday, February 24, 2013

Angels

Was terribly sick and sad today. But my friends instantly called and visited me in my humble home, they brought me food and drink, prayed and gave loads of caring words. My heart was deeply touched. That healed my body more than the bag of medicine from Al Noor Pharmacy!

Thank you Lord for blessing us through our friends in our lives. I love you all!

new life lesson today: 
when you are sick, 
friends care > medical care

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I believe in angels,
The kind that heaven sends,
I am surrounded by angels,
But I call them friends.

-by  Aizabel Parinas
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Thursday, February 21, 2013

Life Shakes

Have you ever experienced sadness that causes you to cry uncontrollably? Your whole body shakes. Your head feel so heavy. You feel so defeated. And you want to release all the heavy air out of your lungs. 

Aahhhh!
You know what, just enjoy it. Just let it go. Cry all you want. Its painful yes but go ahead and feel it. It will soon pass. Because life is not always smiles and laughter. Sometimes it gets wet with tears also.
After that, inhale the deepest breath ever and exhale it freely. And then laugh it out loud. Listen to the sound of your laughter. Gain back your confidence and take control of your self again.

Oh Life. Stop shaking me.

picture borrowed from sir google

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Assignment

Last weekend before leaving work my third Bujangnim gave me a difficult assignment. I thought to just  ignore it but surely he will demand an answer soon. Ok here his questions are answered honestly from the bottom of my heart. 

Assignment

1. What makes it exhausting to work here?
  • Tough project situation.
  • Culture clashes among colleagues.
  • Stubborn subcontractors and suppliers.
  • When my MAR returns back with Status C (or D).
  • Many pending work but it seems like nothing is moving.
  • When I try to explain something and it is misunderstood for something else.
2.What makes it boring to work here?
  • Sometimes when the office is very silent.
  • When it seems to have no progress at the site.
  • Routine clerical works.
  • Long working hours especially during summer in the Ramadan period.

3. What makes it exciting to work in our company?
  • My friends. It is exciting to work here because my friends are here.
  • I am in the best department and I have great bujangnims.
  • When I finish a difficult task.
  • Construction as a whole is exciting, work at site is full of life.
  • And the best part is eating out with colleagues (see illustrations below)
^^ during 'pay' daysss
:( during 'goodbye' daysss
:) just get together' days
:) and 'couples' days.... (single alone hehe!)

Saturday, February 16, 2013

The Good Samaritan

The Road of Decision

Today in ECC, Pastor Mark's sermon have struck a chord in many people's hearts. We live in a country where similar situation, as the parable have shown, is happening all the time. And we are tested each time to make the right decisions.

The story of the good Samaritan tells of a Jewish man falling in the hands of thieves and left half dead on the road. During that time, the road to Jericho is very dangerous and known for thieves. Three people passed by and saw the hurting man.

1st Person - expert of the law. He avoided him and passed by on the other side. 
Sad to say, we are like him. I am like him. When we meet people especially those who we consider as lower status, we think that it is better to keep distance and avoid them because if we get closer, we will be required to help and they may take advantage of us and then we may get hurt also.

2nd Person - a leader. He slows down to look at him and then also passed by on the other side. 
Many times we see people who needs help. We curiously look at them and stop there. We think it is better not to get involved so we ignore them and do nothing.

3rd Person - a samaritan. In the time of Jesus, Samaritans were treated like 'dogs'. They were despised and considered as lower class people. But this samaritan saw the man in the road and had compassion on him and helped him. He have no idea who the person was and he have absolutely nothing to gain from helping him. Yet he decided and acted instantly.

I was wrong when I said before, that we need to stay away from people and avoid attachments. I realized that to live fully, we must not fail to love in every opportunity. We don't have any excuse to be unloving. Yes, it may cost us something, our time, money, and maybe we'll get hurt too. But then, to love unconditionally is what makes life meaningful.

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“Too often we underestimate the
power of a touch, a smile,
a kind word,
a listening ear,
an honest compliment,
or the smallest act of caring,
all of which have the potential
to turn a life around.” 
- by Leo Buscaglia
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Thursday, February 14, 2013

The Four Gates of Speech

An old Sufi tradition advises us to speak only after our words have managed to pass through four gates.

At the first gate, we ask ourselves,
"Are these words true?"
If so, we let them pass on;
if not, back they go.

At the second gate we ask;
"Are they necessary?" 

At the third gate we ask;
"Are they beneficial?" 

and at the fourth gate, we ask,
"Are they kind?"

If the answer to any of these is no, then what you are about to say should be left unsaid.

photo borrowed from sir google...

Friday, February 08, 2013

Rose (Inspiring True Story)

An 87 Year Old College Student Named Rose
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. 
I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. 

She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. 

"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.

She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids..."

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me. 

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up. 

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium.

As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. 

You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.

If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.

If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. 

Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.

The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.